A few days before my 28th birthday, I climbed to the top of a large hill that over looks Ha Matela, a view that always contradicted my residential status in the community – Do I really live here? I wondered. I sat down with my journal and I made a list, and for several minutes I scratched things below this list, allowing my confidence to swell along with reassurance that I am exactly where I should be going into the next year of life.
The list was entitled, “All these things that I have done.”
Not only is that the title of one of my favorite songs, but it was also great proof, really to just myself, that I am not a, um, F***-up.
Today is the last day, last of hour, of my 20s and, although reminiscent, I am not wallowing in days gone. My 20s were a tumultuous time, as they are for many, but they were so filled with amazing adventures and mishaps that I truly believe have set the foundation for my 30s.
Even though my 29th year has been much of this, I do not doubt or discredit the things that lead me to my path now. I don’t have the reasoning, and I really don’t need it, for why I am where I am, but I just know that it is where I should be.
As I have tried to really grasp with my 30/30 day project, I am truly grateful to have lived this life. It’s often messy and most times I’ve lost something, but it’s the life that is handpicked for me, therefore, it is incredible.
To appreciate the decade gone past, I want to highlight a few big moments, if only to remind myself how incredibly blessed I’ve been.
The Top Moments of My 20s
- Before I turned 20, I had never left the country. I’ve now been to 11 countries, half of which are African. I’ve only seen a small corner of this world, but I am so thankful for the opportunities I’ve had to explore the world, especially the chance to have lived in two cultures completely different than the one I grew up in.
- I’ve left home and I’ve returned, several times. I think everyone should experience both things once in their life.
- I’ve done things that seemed so unlikely for me when I was 19 – the Post, Peace Corps, etc. It’s good to surprise yourself.
- My relationship with my body will likely always be complicated, but I never been more in touch with it when I trained for and ran the ultra marathon. I shouldn’t not have been able to do that, but I did.
- I’ve loved and had my heart broken. My friends often tease me that my choice in men is less than ideal, but I am attracted to men with wanderlust ambitions and big dreams because that’s who I am. Eventually, I will settle down and hopefully find someone who is at the same place, but I think it’s good to fall for the wrong guy because it always forces me to realign with who I am and what I deserve. Plus, ask my friends, I have some of the best dating stories.
- My friendships have drastically changed since I began this decade and I don’t keep in touch with many of the people I was friends with at 20, but I’ve found that I am person who absorbs those in front of me. Some of those will stick around for years, even though we are no longer in the same location, and I understand that those are the truest of friends. It doesn’t matter when they entered your life, because it is likely they won’t exit for a while.
- I have two families. A Basotho family made me their own and I finally understand that my immediate family, the ones I’ve always known, are the greatest people in my life.
It wasn’t even my birthday today, and man do I have so much to be thankful for.